In view of this I have decided to leave him to it and remember they are his A levels and not mine and although I know he is making a huge error, he is after all 17 and responsible for his own actions now.
A frustrated Mum can only do so much!
You are doing the only thing you can. We had exactly the same problem, maybe even worse, but he is doing really well now he is at university, although he ruled himself out of the very best ones by virtue of GCSE grades. There is no point in you doing or saying anything - he knows what you say is right, but it has to be his decision. Backing off is the only possible thing that might work, and if he doesn't want to go to university then isn't he really being more intelligent than those who just go through the system clocking up tens of thousands in debt when they could be working and earning? Ignoring him and just getting on with the things you want to do will be more pleasant for you as well. We also had an older son who we couldn't have stopped from working hard even if we'd tried! It has to be down to them, so give yourselves a break - he will ask if he wants help, and if he doesn't then he won't accept it anyway. Good luck![url][/url]