Friendships
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Friendships
At induction day last week, my DD met her new class and it seems that most children live quite an inconvenient distance away from us - 20+ miles. It's no real surprise given we're a fair trek from the school, just unfortunate that many are coming from the opposite direction.
I'm just wondering how it'll be not having local school friends during the teenage years. I'd be interested to hear from those who've already experienced this. Presumably her Dad and I can look forward to much taxiing over the next seven years!
Thanks
IP
I'm just wondering how it'll be not having local school friends during the teenage years. I'd be interested to hear from those who've already experienced this. Presumably her Dad and I can look forward to much taxiing over the next seven years!
Thanks
IP
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Re: Friendships
Hello,Igglepiggle wrote:At induction day last week, my DD met her new class and it seems that most children live quite an inconvenient distance away from us - 20+ miles. It's no real surprise given we're a fair trek from the school, just unfortunate that many are coming from the opposite direction.
I'm just wondering how it'll be not having local school friends during the teenage years. I'd be interested to hear from those who've already experienced this. Presumably her Dad and I can look forward to much taxiing over the next seven years!
Thanks
IP
We have been in this situation for two years.Although we live near the school, DD seemed to manage to make friends primarily with girls who live far away.(well her closest friends)
In year 7 friendships shuffle a lot anyhow.The last two years I have just had to be more flexible and accommodating than I expected to be.We have girls staying over at weekends at least twice a month in term time.in school hols they have extended stays.
it is not ideal but they need their friends when they are teenagers.(especially girls)
Ed has had this problem. His friends (new ones from school) all live a good few miles away. It just means being prepared to drive them about quite a lot, unfortunately.
My sister in law ended up moving for this reason - although there was a bit more to it than that. It is entirely possible that your child may have 'school' friends and 'home' friends. That can work well.
My sister in law ended up moving for this reason - although there was a bit more to it than that. It is entirely possible that your child may have 'school' friends and 'home' friends. That can work well.
Agree with previous posters. It isn't their fault if their friends live further away. In primary school all DS's friends lived within 10 minutes from our house, now it's 10 miles!There are a couple of boys living nearby but DS "doesn't really like them"!!! However as I get on well with the mums the boys also get on well when we get them together, it's just not their first choice of friends.We all have to compromise and most weekends are spent ferrying DS to birthday parties or sleepovers.DH said he should get an orange 'For Hire ' sign for his car!!
They break up on Friday so there will be a lot of taxiing over the next few weeks!
They break up on Friday so there will be a lot of taxiing over the next few weeks!
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Thanks for your replies everyone. We are resigned to providing taxi services! It makes me realise how easy the last seven years have been having all friends within a mile or two!
It's funny how you spend months worrying about whether or not your child will pass the 11+ and once they've got a place, you find something else to stress over!
It's funny how you spend months worrying about whether or not your child will pass the 11+ and once they've got a place, you find something else to stress over!
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That's true, public transport is good here and I'm sure she'll be very motivated to get out and about as soon as we are willing to give her that freedom!
A friend said to me, that at 11, they seem so young to be travelling long distances to school, but that they very quickly become thirteen year olds and it won't seem half so scarey.
A friend said to me, that at 11, they seem so young to be travelling long distances to school, but that they very quickly become thirteen year olds and it won't seem half so scarey.