I have got my two through the process and I found the second more stressful because there was greater expectations, if you already have one child in grammar school then the second is expected to do as well, which in itself causes stress.
This is so very, very true. That expectation certainly caused my dd unnecessary stress....
My lovely dc4 is not as 'academically able' as his siblings and it can be frustrating when people unthinkingly assume/say aloud that he can follow his older siblings to KECH.
It creates pressure and confusion for him and really annoys me
Our hope is that he might possibly pass for another grammar in the city but no-one can guarantee that, as even if he is working at the right level, he unfortunately suffers from nervousness. The important thing is he's a decent, caring and hard-working little boy so while he may not gain the academic 'successes' his older siblings have, he is just as special in my eyes