I have followed, gained advice and read pretty much everything on this wonderful forum for a couple of years now. I therefore thought I would tell you about our 'journey' as it has only just ended.
Our Daughter sat her 11+ in 2007 and got 117 in both tests. She was number 2 on the class list and was exceptionally highly recommended for Grammar School by her Head Teacher/Teachers. We went to appeal but we were unsuccessful. We were absolutely devastated. I can honestly say that it felt like our World felt apart. Our Daughter was inconsolable.
We made the very difficult decision, as a family, to send our Daughter to private school as we were offered the worst possible Secondary School in our area. She would have been eaten alive! Before our Daughter started year 7 she was adamant she would sit her 12+. Sally-Ann had advised that this was an option but when we were unsuccessful at the 11+ appeal - the 12+ seemed a million miles away.
However, our Daughter started year 7 in a local Private School and sat her 12+. To say that we were delighted when she passed is an under-statement! We had the party we had hoped to have had the previous year!
However, we were not offered the Grammar School which was our first choice. It had always been our dream and choice for our Daughter to attend a Girls School. It probably sounds as if we were ungrateful which could not be further from the truth! However, having been to one appeal for the 11+ we thought we would give it a go for the Grammar School of our choice. We went to appeal and we were successful. All of a sudden it all seemed like a dream. I am unable to tell you all just how much I cried.
This is of course also an emotional choice to make as our Daughter has settled in at the Private School we sent her to. However, she is so sensible and knows that this is the very best school for her - and its a Grammar School. After 2 years I can finally say that our Daughter is going to Grammar School
I am by no means saying that how we did it and the choices we made were right - but they worked for us. I never thought I would get over it when we were unsuccesful at that first 11+ appeal. I remember Sally Anne and Etienne writing that 'there is life after the 11+'. It was very difficult to believe at the time but my goodness - all the tears, hard work and uncertainty has been worth it......
I am thrilled that our story has had a happy ending - a new story is about to commence as it is now my Son's turn to sit the 11+ in October. Oh deep joy!!!!
May I end this long post by expressing my deepest gratitude to Salle-Anne, Etienne and everyone else who has given us help and support over the past couple of years. You are truly all amazing!!!
A Very Happy Mum