Thank you for the reply's we are Catholic so that side of things is not a problem.
I am just worried that my child is more than able but just very lazy at times, so their current school don't think they would cope with the work load in a Grammar.
If they are not given the work and push in a Sec school they will sink.
We recently discovered the uppers seem to give more teacher directed work, work sheets and individual performance targets than the grammar we know well.
The grammars expect a level of self motivation and ours punishes if the child does not do homework, get good test results etc. Not nastily, but by detentions, re-tests, lunchtime forfeits etc. They are expected to perform to the school performance standard, not their own set of targets.
Only you and your son's teachers know which method will work best with him.