Patience!
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Patience!
Hi,
My DD is starting with a private tutor after half term. In the meantime, I thought I would give her a couple of worksheets to do which I printed off the internet.
They were fairly easy ones and she should have been able to do them but she had some sort of hissy fit when I gave them to her.
Is this what it is going to be like for the next year? Feeling very discouraged. Especially as all this was DD's idea!
Blue_Marigold
My DD is starting with a private tutor after half term. In the meantime, I thought I would give her a couple of worksheets to do which I printed off the internet.
They were fairly easy ones and she should have been able to do them but she had some sort of hissy fit when I gave them to her.
Is this what it is going to be like for the next year? Feeling very discouraged. Especially as all this was DD's idea!
Blue_Marigold
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It's the end of half term and it is possible she is just tired. Most kids are after several weeks of school.
Maybe try again, at the end of the holiday when she is feeling refreshed.
Maybe try again, at the end of the holiday when she is feeling refreshed.
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Re: Patience!
Has she seen and done anything like those questions before? You may consider them fairly easy but if she hasn't done anything like them before, her reaction may just have been cover for the fact she doesn't know where to start.
A good teacher will have strategies for introducing new subjects and ways of working. I wouldn't worry.
A good teacher will have strategies for introducing new subjects and ways of working. I wouldn't worry.
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I'm afraid only you know your daughter
There was another thread somewhere about whether it's possible to tutor a child at home for a superselective grammar or whether an external tutor was essential. One of the most useful observations is that when you use a tutor, it's much less personal. A bit like when your dad tried to teach you how to drive - much more likely to end in tears than when you used a driving instructor.
My son is stubborn and occasionally lazy. It was good for him to have the routine of an external tutor (he was also in a group with some of his friends, which helped) and not for everything to be a battle between me and him. Although I have to say we did have many battles over the course of the year
Good luck.
There was another thread somewhere about whether it's possible to tutor a child at home for a superselective grammar or whether an external tutor was essential. One of the most useful observations is that when you use a tutor, it's much less personal. A bit like when your dad tried to teach you how to drive - much more likely to end in tears than when you used a driving instructor.
My son is stubborn and occasionally lazy. It was good for him to have the routine of an external tutor (he was also in a group with some of his friends, which helped) and not for everything to be a battle between me and him. Although I have to say we did have many battles over the course of the year
Good luck.
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Don't think that you are alone. I got some of the verbal reasoning books yesterday & tried to get my son to do one section. And oh my goodness, I just couldn't cope with the whining and whinging. A 20mins exercise took us over 1hr, not because it was difficult but because he couldn't focus and was daydreaming over fifa 17!!
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Re: Patience!
I needed plenty of that this morning
After having done nothing all week (apart from some reading) I decided that today was the day to "take the bull by the horns" and get stuck into some 11+ work with my son.
Well, it has taken us two hours and we have managed about 15 minutes of actual work. He has needed a drink, a snack, a break, a toilet visit, five minutes to sharpen his pencils etc etc.
It is sooo frustrating. He knows it once he actually gets on with doing it but it is the getting on with it that seems to be the problem!
Another 11 months of this and I will be doolally
After having done nothing all week (apart from some reading) I decided that today was the day to "take the bull by the horns" and get stuck into some 11+ work with my son.
Well, it has taken us two hours and we have managed about 15 minutes of actual work. He has needed a drink, a snack, a break, a toilet visit, five minutes to sharpen his pencils etc etc.
It is sooo frustrating. He knows it once he actually gets on with doing it but it is the getting on with it that seems to be the problem!
Another 11 months of this and I will be doolally
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I'm so pleased that I am not alone on this! You are describing exactly the battle that I have with DS whenever I mention that we need to do some work!2littleboys wrote:I needed plenty of that this morning
After having done nothing all week (apart from some reading) I decided that today was the day to "take the bull by the horns" and get stuck into some 11+ work with my son.
Well, it has taken us two hours and we have managed about 15 minutes of actual work. He has needed a drink, a snack, a break, a toilet visit, five minutes to sharpen his pencils etc etc.
It is sooo frustrating. He knows it once he actually gets on with doing it but it is the getting on with it that seems to be the problem!
Another 11 months of this and I will be doolally
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Oh and please let's not mention the length of time taken for his toilet break!
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I'm so glad that there are others sharing my pain
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Can you start off with some "stealth learning"?
If they seem averse to actual book learning, try reading aloud (checking if they knownthe meanings of any oesoteric words as you go), playing Scrabble or Bananagrams, doing crosswords or wordsearches together, play maths games in the car (can you times this number by 2? What are the factors of this number)
Then make your bite size chunks smaller if he's finding 2 hours too much.
. He only works for 20 minutes? Get a kitchen timer and give him 5 minutes to write as many colours as he can on a piece of paper.
Tell him to see if he can beat you.
Or get him to do one part of a ten minute test (maybe 3 questions) and mark them wity him. Gradually build up. .
If they seem averse to actual book learning, try reading aloud (checking if they knownthe meanings of any oesoteric words as you go), playing Scrabble or Bananagrams, doing crosswords or wordsearches together, play maths games in the car (can you times this number by 2? What are the factors of this number)
Then make your bite size chunks smaller if he's finding 2 hours too much.
. He only works for 20 minutes? Get a kitchen timer and give him 5 minutes to write as many colours as he can on a piece of paper.
Tell him to see if he can beat you.
Or get him to do one part of a ten minute test (maybe 3 questions) and mark them wity him. Gradually build up. .