I'm new here and would really appreciate some help.
DD has been accepted by Pates - but she hates it. We went round to visit in September, and she didn't like anything about it.
She would like to go to the CHelt. Ladies college, and we would just about be able to send her, but it would mean a lot of other things would go by the board.
What factors should we consider in making up our minds?
I like the idea of a grammar school - because I feel that the children are much more grounded and have worked hard to get there. I like the Ladies college as I think a single gender education is better for girls - but I worry that she might become spoilt and lose sight of the real world.
I don't envy you Ellen,
Whilst I sympathise, I'm afraid this is one dilemma I think only you can answer. Our children have been in independent education throughout their primary years and we had hoped to send them both Abingdon boys school in Oxfordshire. Our current financial situation means this is sadly, no longer an option. We are now going down the grammar route, as this is the next best thing for them.
Our boys have got off to a great start and I feel sure that they will continue to flourish in a grammar. Our eldest boy has just sat the Gloucestershire test and qualified for Tommys. He would love to go with his mates to Abingdon but he knows we can't do that for him and is very accepting of this. He missed out on Pates by only a few points and is very upset. However, kids adapt quickly and I'm sure he will settle at Tommys and do well.
I'm sure your DD hates Pate's because she wants to go to a more prestigious school. I haven't heard a single bad thing about Pate's and would be very surprised if she didn't settle in quite quickly (but only you know your daughter well enough to know if this would be so). Pate's also tend to out-perform the local independent schools in their exam results.
She should be over the moon to be accepted by Pate's. It's harder to get in there than any of the independents. The money you would save on school fees would make life outside of school pretty rosy too!
Maybe you could sit down with her and try to find out exactly what it is about Pate's that she doesn't like. And if you do decide to send her to Cheltenham Ladies, I'm sure you will manage to keep her grounded.
If she doesn't take up her place at Pate's, can my boy have it?