Our story - a year on from 'failure'
Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 11:48 pm
Just logging in for the first time in a year... not that I haven't been around, I have....just lurking, never posting. I never got round to congratulating those who now go to grammar following a successful appeal. Way to go! Congratulations!
I really do wish everyone the best of luck for tomorrow. For some, the news will result in much jubilation, but for others.... just despair like it was for me last year. For me, it wasn't particularly straight away, but a couple of days afterward when I literally just crashed out with the emotion.
I've come out the other side of it all now and I just wanted to let people know that things can turn out OK in the end. I was really 'down' for quite some time, sometimes having to make excuses for my red puffy eyes. Perhaps they knew really, I don't know. Sometimes it really 'hurt' ; finding out others who had passed who were no more 'clever' than my own son; the trip to the school outfitters (yes!); the 'twist' in the sort of 'pecking order' at work and so on.
My son is now reaching the end of his first half-term at his new school - the local comp. I now realise that there is another sort of 'bubble' in addition to the bubble of academic achievement. I know I'm a bit slow on the up-take and it didn't matter how many times I was told, I actually had to believe it for myself.... This bubble encompasses happiness, self-esteem and confidence. DS has plenty of all of those things for which I am truly thankful. He is his own person..... and that's grand. He is, according to his form tutor, making excellent progress, made it to top maths, has wowed teachers and kids with his knowledge of different subjects and is very happy to be seen as a geek! He would have had none of that in the bottom half of a grammar.
What will be, will be. Be proud of your children. Take care. x
I really do wish everyone the best of luck for tomorrow. For some, the news will result in much jubilation, but for others.... just despair like it was for me last year. For me, it wasn't particularly straight away, but a couple of days afterward when I literally just crashed out with the emotion.
I've come out the other side of it all now and I just wanted to let people know that things can turn out OK in the end. I was really 'down' for quite some time, sometimes having to make excuses for my red puffy eyes. Perhaps they knew really, I don't know. Sometimes it really 'hurt' ; finding out others who had passed who were no more 'clever' than my own son; the trip to the school outfitters (yes!); the 'twist' in the sort of 'pecking order' at work and so on.
My son is now reaching the end of his first half-term at his new school - the local comp. I now realise that there is another sort of 'bubble' in addition to the bubble of academic achievement. I know I'm a bit slow on the up-take and it didn't matter how many times I was told, I actually had to believe it for myself.... This bubble encompasses happiness, self-esteem and confidence. DS has plenty of all of those things for which I am truly thankful. He is his own person..... and that's grand. He is, according to his form tutor, making excellent progress, made it to top maths, has wowed teachers and kids with his knowledge of different subjects and is very happy to be seen as a geek! He would have had none of that in the bottom half of a grammar.
What will be, will be. Be proud of your children. Take care. x