I'm another Y5 mum with a DD who is starting on the whole 11+ treadmill.
It's second time around for me, my other DD took the test two years ago, failed (which TBH what I was really expecting) but has settled in so well at her secondary school. Even though she failed, I am so so pleased with the life lessons she got from doing the 11+, she encountered subjects in maths she had never seen, so when she came to them in Y6, she was already ahead of the game. Also, the actual exam experience was fantastic for her - she was not fazed at all by the Y7 exams she did. She is now in top sets and absolutely flying !
But back to DD2, she is a very bright little girl but who has mobility problems. We are currently waiting a firm diagnosis, but unofficially she has a central cord disorder. Primary school absolutely exhausts her, and she is starting to use her wheelchair for school trips and ocassionally for day to day travel to school. She uses a laptop in the classroom, so I am guessing that we will have to ask for extra time for her - although i am pretty clueless where to start (Kent County I guess!!!). As of yet she is not statemented, but is on School Action Plus - when her final diagnosis comes in, we will look at statementing then. Her teachers have said that selective school would be a good choice for her educationally - I just have to look at the logisitics of it all.
We started her 11+ preparations in September, just by picking up the 10 minute bond tests books. She is working at 10-11+ on verbal and non-verbal and 9-10 at maths and pretty much getting them all right. We are thinking of tutoring her in January, more because I know the answers to the questions, but I just can not explain how I got there!!!
I am keeping things really low key, and have said to DD2 that all the 11+ is a method of finding the right school for her, her elder sister did not get the required mark (or as DD1 puts it herself, completely bombed!) but look how happy she is in her school, it's not about a pass or fail, just an assessment to see where she would be happiest.
Having said that - it's over a year away and I lurk on these forums as though my life would end without them!!!