The children at our Primary School were told not to talk about the 11+ incase it hurt the feelings of those who didn't pass, they weren't even allowed to ask their friends how they did! Neither the teachers or the headmaster made any comment to those who were successful. This from a school that hands out certificates if you can tie your shoes or blow your nose, and is very quick to criticise those less able at sports.
Is it just me, or is it not unreasonable to assume that a discreet 'well done' was in order?
When my son passed his 11 plus, on the day of the results, I went in to pick him up from school and the headmistress was all smiles and said she and all the teaching staff had known since the morning that he had been successful.
He was called up, told he had passed and the whole year 6 class cheered. He then went in to the year 5 class and was cheered there too, with the teacher saying that he had aimed high and so should they. He has since returned to his junior school, in full grammer regalia and answered questions about his experience of the test and grammer school life. Many children were encouraged by this and several children and their parents attended the grammer school open evening as a result.
Sometimes a child who achieves their goal can be an inspiration to the others to aim high too.
Sadly, we really are far too pc these days.