Daughter has just passed the test, and at first was really happy and excited. I have sent the caf in with the grammar school as first choice.
Unfortunately, for the last two days, she has suddenly had doubts as she has said that none of her friends have got in. From her school , 6 children took the test, and she was the only one that passed, and another friend that goes to a different school didn't get in either.
I have tried to explain to her, that when you go to secondary , a lot of friends split as they all choose to go to different schools.
She does know children that go the to grammar school, that are there from previous years, in fact her best friend is in the year above, but I think she is scared of turning up on her own. I have explained to her that you have induction days, so you can meet all the children that are going and make new friends, but she is unsure.
She also seems to be a bit embarrassed that she got in and the other children didn't , and she is concerned that she would not be able to cope once at the school.
So I went to talk to her primary school teacher, to ask for her score to see how she did, if she just passed or had a good pass and if she thought she was capable and would be able to cope. The teacher said that passing the 11 plus didn't really mean anything , as the tests don;t show ability , it is just if the kids are lucky enough to have a good day when they take the test. She did say that she would be able to cope and she should do well at the school, but I think when my daughter heard what she had said about the tests, she felt a bit deflated and it knocked her confidence. . Also, they said that they had not got the scores yet, but I have to say that I feel the school is a bit anti 11 plus, as we have had no information or help about anything in the last year before the exams. Other parents have said to me, that when their child has passed in previous years, they don't really care and instead of the school being proud for the kids, they don;t really acknowledge the children at all.
What I want to know is, has anyone else's child had doubts about going to the grammar school and did they turn down the place, or did they go and settle in and are now happy.