We have a son at Dulwich and he absolutely loves it; we couldn't be happier with our choice. We worried that it may be 'stuck up' but it isn't at all. It is very diverse, probably because it's a boarding school, and many, many boys receive bursaries. The pastoral care is second to none; it's a big school but somehow they manage to make every boy seem 'special'. We did not look at Whitgift so I can't compare the two but I will say again that we are so happy we chose Dulwich and hear nothing but praise from other parents too. Good luck choosing but it's a good choice to have to make!