Removal from independent school due to poor attitude?

[Waiting_For_Godot]

Hi, there

Is a specialist music school a realistic possiblity for post-prep?

I have always been very much against this as I do not like specialization so early on but he has brought it up a few times. We would certainly consider the junior conservatoires but this would only work if he were at a school that did not have Saturday lessons and had a shorter day i.e. a good state school!

[katel]

" in fact they think all schools cost money and cost the same amount! "

They don't, you know. Or they only do if they have never read a school story, a newspaper, watched the TV or talked to their friends.

[la boume]

I found the fact that the boys of 10? and 12? do not know about the main difference between state schools and independent schools quite interesting. Seems like they are a bit sheltered from the real life.

[Waiting_For_Godot]

I found the fact that the boys of 10? and 12? do not know about the main difference between state schools and independent schools quite interesting. Seems like they are a bit sheltered from the real life.

I don't agree with this. I never talk about schools with my boys, it's the last thing that interests a child. I have plenty of friends with 10 year olds at state school who have no idea that there are such things as private schools. A school is a school to them. A close friend of mine is looking into the Glos 11+ and her DS asked if he could go to my son's school. When she told him it was too expensive, he was staggered that some people paid to go to school. I had never come across private schools until I was 22!


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[katel]

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I honestly think you should be very careful assuming that your ds2 doesn't understand about the difference between paid for schools and free ones. Even if he doesn't know now, if you move him to a state school somebody is bound to say something about his mum and dad not being able to afford to send him to his old school any more. Particularly in year 6, when they alre all talking about where they are going next.

[hermanmunster]

kids will only know the difference between state and indie (ie that you have to pay for them) if someone tells them - then it depends what slant is put on it.
I remember cringing hearing a friend's daughter telling her friend that she was going "to go to a free school so it wouldn't cost mummy and daddy anything" ..... urgently needed the spin doctors but TBH the damage was done.... and perfectly good state was a disaster and hence back to not so good indie (which later shut down).

my DC were clueless that I paid for their school until they were year 5ish. TBH just looking at last years tax bill and am still paying for their education

[Waiting_For_Godot]

my DC were clueless that I paid for their school until they were year 5ish. TBH just looking at last years tax bill and am still paying for their education

and not just your owns!

[hermanmunster]

my DC were clueless that I paid for their school until they were year 5ish. TBH just looking at last years tax bill and am still paying for their education

and not just your owns!

too right - half the blooming town I think!!!... oh and the mayor's jolly to the twin town and the road works that held me up

[la boume]

In my DD's state primary kids are moving to the indie sector every year, inc best friends So it is reality of life when the child asks you why she can't go to the same school, and the answer is always honest. But one of my friends is constantly moaning how expensive the school is in front of her DD, and it starting to have negative impact on the child.

[Waiting_For_Godot]

If a child has always been in private school then they don't have the usual "what school are you moving on to" in Y6. The only conversations DS has about schools amongst his peers are whether they are academic or not. Seriously, most of the kids at DS school are genuinely clueless about school fees but I'm sure that will change once they get to senior school.