PlutoMum, reading these indie threads as an outsider, it is easy to sense amongst some posters what comes across as almost a fear of sending a child into anything other than a top performing exclusive independent school. I don't live in the south east and this overboiled indie culture isn't prevalent here, but please remember that the curriculum in the very worst school in the country and that of what is regarded as the very best will be the same.
That is, the very same. There is not a different, special one for grammars or posh indies or Very Bright Children or those from the right 'set' (still reeling from reading that on another thread
). Schools differ in culture and ethos, sure, but bright children who are well supported at home tend to do well academically wherever they go. I teach in a school which is definitely not
well regarded..., we are in and out of special measures, and even we
get our share of A* students. Remember that the sample of us posting on here is a tiny self selecting group...and you are not all that likely to get any very pro-comp people, especially in this section. But go and look at Katel's thread in EE and you may see another side.
From this you can probably tell what, on the basis of what you have said, I
think you ought to do...but I will stop short of telling you as it isn't my child! Very best of luck whatever you decide. I am sure your son will do well.