kenyancowgirl wrote:
No, I am merely suggesting that the two statements are ironical. The irony is that you "understand the cruelty of it all" yet the 11+ is the cruelest system there is. Telling children that they are failures in most cases at 10....
It is a harsh place to be but to comment that you chose a school that does not do setting when the 11+ is a system that effectively sets children at age 10 is, frankly, ironical! I am not judging your decison, just commenting on the way you present it as being slightly flawed.
Thank you for the clarification KCG - I misunderstood you.
I agree with you that the 11+ is a cruel system, and that it is in fact setting.
For me and likely for many other parents, the unfortunate reality is that rejecting that system is not feasible, given that the alternative is to send your child to a struggling/failing comprehensive - which sets your child (and you!) up for more misery.
I am fortunate and grateful that my child was able to get through - and in to a school which does not do setting from Year 7 onwards.