I just had to post tonight, I am not looking for anyone to repond, I just wanted to post something to explain how I feel at the end of year 7 at our comprehensive after our failed appeal.
I will be the first to admit that I have taken my son's poor score in his 11+ and subsequent awful appeal and result really badly. I have been haunted by the whole process for about 18 months now. I thought he'd walk the test, everything about him suggests he should have walked it, and he didn't. It was an awful time, and still today I am beating myself up on a daily basis over it.
However I have just been to his year 7 parent's evening tonight. I was absolutely gobsmacked. On 7 different occasions various teachers told me he was gifted, I am told he is expected to get 10 As in GCSE and these teachers will push him all the way, they will not leave him be and will stretch him and stretch him, so that he is never bored, and that they expect tremendous things from him. I saw him finally straighten himself up, and take a little look at himself, and realise that actually, what his mum has been saying all along IS true, he is a smart boy.
I just wanted to share this with people on here as there have been a few cases recently where people haven't had the result they wanted. I have been very sceptical of the school my son is going to, I know it is not a failing school, but it was never going to be the school his siblings are at, and for that reason alone, I have been unhappy for so long. However tonight, I am a changed person, and I think I may have finally accepted the past 18 months, and may possibly be able to move on at last. He IS the star I knew he was, and well if he gets half the As they predict he might he will have done as well as his siblings at grammar, so fair enough
I think that for you guys who've had a rotten time, it may take ages, but you know your child and what s/he is capable of, and I am sure the experience I have just had will be repeated for you too.
Hope this helps someone out there feeling sad.