So sorry to hear your disappointing news.
oops forgot to mention pass mark is 111, also I know from past info that school does not always go for children with high ability more for circumstances
I wouldn't put too much trust in that. The Code of Practice makes clear that, whatever the extenuating circumstances, there is a requirement for grammar school ability.
In determining to uphold an appeal, the panel must be satisfied that there is evidence to demonstrate that the child is of grammar school ability and, where applicable, that the appellant’s arguments outweigh the admission authority’s case that admission of additional children would cause prejudice.
While I'm sure there would be a lot of sympathy for the particular circumstances, you would need to be able to point to some
evidence of high ability.
In the past we've certainly had successful appeals involving Aspergers on the forum. For example:viewtopic.php?f=35&t=12527&hilit=aspergers