In anyones opinion, whether you have already been through this, or are going through it now.........
Would you tell your child that you are Appealing, to give them some sort of hope OR would you not tell them at all and let them dread the first day of term at a school they are scared of going to (but at least they may have a chance of residing themselves to it?)????
Personally I didn't tell my daughter I was appealing. I felt she needed to come to terms with the fact she wouldn't be going to the school everyone told her she would be going to.
After the devastation of not getting into the school she wanted, I couldn't afford to put her through that turmoil again.
When we told her she had gained a place at her chosen school her face said it all. If we hadn't got through she would have been none the wiser and already on her way to accepting the first decision.
You do have other issues though that we didn't have.
Can you tell her that you will look into seeing what other schools are available?
Good luck and I wish you all the best..