I feel sorry for the new girlfriend ! It may be a bit awkward for her especially if the day is to be spent with your old friends.Have you met her yet ? If she is to be a permanent fixture, then it gives you a good opportunity to check her out and see what she is like with your children !
Is there anyone special that you can take to even things up...if that is what you are worried about ? Or have you not seen the old friends for a while and you are worried that it will be awkward ? More info needed ! Tell us why you think it is weird !
I feel quite sorry for the new girlfriend too. I haven't met her yet (that's happening next week) and I get the impression she thinks it's a bit odd that ex and kids and I still spend time together. She has kids of her own - teenagers - who won't be there.
I suppose what's weird is that I haven't seen any of these old friends since the split - we sort of divided friends and hobbies up last year so we both had time to re-establish ourselves as single people. Also - this lady hasn't actually left her husband yet. Ex tells me that her husband understands the situation but I've only got his word for it - and I don't feel comfortable getting myself and the kids involved in a cheating situation.
Different sort of day..... but the important thing is that the DCs feel comfortable during the day - they can so easily pick up the stress vibes...
What are you planning to do? I reckon tricky days need heavy distraction ... theme park, theatre trip, roller skating, hike with picnic , stately home ..... preferably with adults getting soaked, joining in, having a laugh etc etc ..... overall just something other than hours of trying to have conversation!
With castle, battle and all the trimmings.
And lots of friends of my Dad's will be there too (possibly - if he's well enough - even my Dad!)
I don't want the kids to miss out on something they love - which they haven't had a chance to do since the split - but I think a lot of people will feel very awkward and I don't want the children to, as you say, pick up a vibe. It's not for me or them to judge what their father does but .... maybe all will becoming clearer when I meet this lady next week.