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Feeling Emotional

Posted: Tue Apr 16, 2013 9:41 am
by countrymum
Is it just me that is getting a wee bit emotional thinking of DC's moving up to secondary? Is a really mixed bag for me of being happy at her growing up, moving forward but at the same time a little :cry: Everything at the primary school is now the last time of this, the last time of doing that. Emotions feel stronger than when she first started primary even. I've not experienced a child going from primary to secondary so all a bit new to me. Would love to know how everyone else feels or felt having experienced it. Maybe it gets easier with the next DC?

Goodness knows I'll need a tonne of tissues at the leavers assembly :lol:

Re: Feeling Emotional

Posted: Tue Apr 16, 2013 9:49 am
by KS10
I cried when my son left Primary, much to OH's disgust - DS had had such a good time in Years 4,5 and 6. Not quite the same for DD, although Year 6 has been good so far in terms of her teacher. I don't think I will be emotional, but you never know.

Re: Feeling Emotional

Posted: Tue Apr 16, 2013 10:09 am
by Snowdrops
I cried when dd left nursery, I cried when she left primary.

I have no doubts I'll shed many more tears over the coming years as each achievement/stage is reached.

I don't know why I do it. I didn't with my other two, perhaps it's old age, I seem to cry at everything these days :(

Try to enjoy their achievements, the time is soon gone.

Re: Feeling Emotional

Posted: Tue Apr 16, 2013 10:15 am
by countrymum
Thank you KS10 and Snowdrops. I think perhaps their happiness at the primary school may have a bearing on the emotions felt. My DD has had such a lovely happy time there and although I reckon shall indeed go on to be just as happy in her new school, it's like the end of an era. She's the only one in her year going off to a different school, I really hope those friendships stay strong with her local friends.

Re: Feeling Emotional

Posted: Tue Apr 16, 2013 10:37 am
by ahap
I think its them growing up that makes me more emotional than anything.

Re: Feeling Emotional

Posted: Tue Apr 16, 2013 10:53 am
by ginx
My dd2 isn't all that happy at junior school and can't wait to leave. I feel quite emotional though - she's been with the same girls (and I've been with their mums) since she was 3 at nursery - eight years - and I know she will bawl her eyes out on the last day. My son didn't, but my daughter was inconsolable which started me off. Embarrassing - I did seem to be the most emotional mum!

I'm a bit emotional because they're all growing up and sometimes I just don't like it. Where has the time gone since they were all "young"? I didn't appreciate it enough, I was too busy coping - with four children, there was always a baby/toddler around, or so it felt. Now they don't often play together and are often in their bedrooms on iPods/iPads, with friends.

I still have a seven year old and make the most of all those cuddles. I will cry when he leaves infant school this summer.

We have a trampoline and they all play on it, but it's only this year I've noticed they're all so tall and (sometimes) mature. :( I should be glad. It's beginning to dawn on me that one day they will all be gone, and it will just be dh and I. He has reminded me that they'll never be able to afford to leave home, and our seven year old will be here for years. He's got no heart. :roll:

I know how you feel, countrymum, not just about leaving junior/primary school, but also growing up generally. It's not just you.

Re: Feeling Emotional

Posted: Tue Apr 16, 2013 11:19 am
by mystery
I haven't got there yet but I'm sure I will be bothered. DD1 moves into the top class in September (we have mixed age classes) and it only feels yesterday since she was born. I'm not sure that I'll be sad about leaving that particular school :oops: but the whole notion of moving on to secondary will be an emotive one to me.

I don't remember caring two hoots when I was a child!

Re: Feeling Emotional

Posted: Tue Apr 16, 2013 11:53 am
by UmSusu
It is a relief to know I am not the only one that feels like this. When DS1 left primary school last year it was such a mixture of pride in seeing them growing up/moving on, excitement for them for this new (more independent) stage in their life, but with a twist of regret and sadness for what they are leaving behind:

no more getting out in the morning with all four kids and talking about the same things that are going on at school; no more lazy walks home or going off to the park after school because there is no rush to get home; no more uninvited friends turning up after school pretending they had asked their parents and it was ok ( :shock: ) or calling in on their way to school.

I am feeling the same this year with DS2. We live on the same road as our school and it is so good to see him dawdling around after school with neighbours his age as they stop at each house and exchange football cards and talk nonsense (although it used to drive me mad that he took so long to walk up one road). When I see that now I think this is a simplicity that he will never get back in life, but tbh I don't think that he is all that bothered :roll:

I think I would be emotional anyway but it is worse when the majority are going to a particular school and will move on with those friends (well, until they get sick of them at secondary school :wink: ) and your child is inevitably going to break away from the group to go somewhere else alone :( . The kids at DS's school are lovely.

.......I think I need to get a grip. Ginx, my DH is about as sympathetic as yours and complains that he will still need to be paying for the younger one into his retirement!

Re: Feeling Emotional

Posted: Tue Apr 16, 2013 12:15 pm
by yummycool
We're just starting to think about what the impact (if any) will have in this last term to dd. At the moment dd seems to be happy, carrying on as normal - there's the odd comment now and again that indicates that she is ready to move on - especially when things are deemed to be babyish!

I'm not sure how I am going to feel when she starts a new school. A new environment where she will need to make decisions, choose friends and generally fend for herself. Primary has afforded us the luxury of getting to know the children your child is friends with, including friendship with their parents. Secondary will be a new phase where I will have to take a more supporting back seat role and let dd take the helm. Here's hoping she will make good choices and be happy :)

Re: Feeling Emotional

Posted: Tue Apr 16, 2013 12:28 pm
by scary mum
It's natural to feel like this - I did last year when my youngest left primary school. Actually in the end you will relish the freedom those extra few hours give you (I have an extra hour on the end of each day, which makes my work easier and gives me longer the days I'm not working). I do miss the contact at the school gates and I don't see my friends as much as I would like to and a lot of people have gone back to work as their last goes on to senior school so I can't catch up with them if and when I am around. It's very sad as it happens, but it quickly becomes normal. Next year my eldest will leave school. Now that is scary :D