What a horrid situation for you both. I am sure you thought long and carefully about this, and it sounds like your son will be ideal for grammar school. I have no experience of this but hearing about lots who have i really think you should feel reassured that the vast majority of childrena re extremely resilient and settle in time. He would be finishing primary soon anyway, but I do thi there are things youc an do to make it easier perhaps
- hopefully you are already doing the mummy acting! That is all about don't worry dear, you will settle, smile smile etc, no matter how you feel inside
- can you find a possible friend or contact for the new school and arrange a meet up or something?
- is the area you have moved to one that he and you will like? I think you will all settle happily given a bit of time, but this will not be so easy if you have compromised on the area you would like to live in, for example town when you love country, or vice verse, or noisy when you love peaceful etc
- can you also arrange ways for him to keep in touch with one or two bestest friends from primary. This is where a mobile, if you plan for him to have one, can be so useful. With some friends here, I am arranging for the four boys, all attending different schools, to meet, with our help, once a month for pizza or film, but as they get older this can shift to their own arrangements
- get him used to the new journey to school, an easier one than he currently has, or at least nearer, but walk it or do it with him in whatever form the transport takes, maybe taking in cafés, sweet shops, whatever will be available on the way to make it nice, or at the very least, take the unknown out of the journey, practice the bus or whatever.
I am sure he will settle, so long as he doesn't pick up your anxiety, so as long as youa re happy with where you are living and so on. You have not done a bad thing at all, he will be fine, but you can help him get there.
All the very best