Both my 12 year old sons have Instagram. I'm ok with that. They don't have smartphones, they are only allowed to use it in public downstairs spaces. I do not check what they look at but do look at their feeds from time to time and only see silly stuff rather than anything horrid. They don't post much, odd decent selfie, pic of new hype t shirt. One boy has been on and off with a 'girlfriend' from same school. All been very innocent, I see her replies to his dms (private messages) as they come up on notifications tab, but I haven't read his private dms to her. Should I? He is only 12, but moody. No moodier than usual and seems ok. I am loathe to invade his privacy like this but am concerned I a, just nervous of seeing stuff I don't want to but if I act on it it shows I've betrayed his privacy. This would be fine if I had reason to be worried, but I dont, so I should just back off, right? They are always home, don't go off out of their own yet or anything, and both sons but esp this one do communicate well with us. And he is also a boundary pusher!
Just collecting thoughts. I want to be a responsible parent, but not s privacy invader.