Birthday presents

Road Runner · Post by **Road Runner** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 2:21 pm

Haveto agree with Eds mum. Â£10 voucher is ample or I have even stuck Â£10 in an envelope. Boys love hard cash!!

I wouldn't buy based on what the party was as at the end of the day they are invited because the child wants them there and personally I wouldn't concern yourself with how much its costing them to throw the party or how much work is involved as thats down to the parents.

To be honest most kids will get the gift and then not give it a second thought. Most even forget who gives what so wouldn't worry.

Mel

Ed's mum · Post by **Ed's mum** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 2:45 pm

I SO love this website...
it's more than an 11+ site; you get advice on anything to do with parenting and children within a few minutes of posting. It's an excellent way of checking what to do in any given situation!

zorro · Post by **zorro** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 2:48 pm

Ed's mum,
Hear hear!

And all free!!

surreymum · Post by **surreymum** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 7:40 pm

Round here everyone tends to give either a Â£10 note or a voucher for same. The kids love it as can get what they like and easy for us

mum3 · Post by **mum3** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 8:22 pm

Â£10 HMV gift card is what we give regardless of parental income of the party giver!

katel · Post by **katel** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 9:18 pm

Do people really judge the present according to the party? I think that's awful - sorry! And I thing Â£20 for a present unless it's for a very special friend is far too much. Â£10 is my limit - maybe stretching to Â£12. And I buy stuff in the sales so I've got a well stocked "secret cupboard" to draw on.

A well chosen present is what you're aiming for, not a present to match the income of the party child's parents. If I tried to do that I would have to give one of dd's friends a polo pony and another a bat of Dairy Milk!

T.i.p.s.y · Post by **T.i.p.s.y** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 9:24 pm

Well I don't think Â£20 is too much, but I also wouldn't care if someone spent Â£3 on my kid as I don't have any issues either way!

Ed's mum · Post by **Ed's mum** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 10:11 pm

Â£20 per child per birthday would be FAR too much for me! We actually cannot afford 10 in all honesty.
Think about how much it mounts up, especially if you have more than one child. I genuinely think that one should give a meaningful present - one that is well thought out - if possible. That has so much more worth than a Â£20 note.
I work really hard, as does my husband, and we still cannot afford some fairly basic things. So am I prepared to spend my hard earned, and much needed money to keep up with the Joneses? Nope!

chad · Post by **chad** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 10:15 pm

The accepted birthday gift for school friends is approx Â£5 - Â£10 ... cash or a HMV voucher/ GAME voucher is always a good bet.... for family friends (ie children that your child has 'grown up' with) I tend to spend a bit more..... usually around Â£20-Â£25.....but that is because we know them well and the pressie is from all of us.

marie · Post by **marie** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 10:38 pm

we only spend on average a fiver for a school friend less if i can get a bargain but that seems fairly average round here may spend slightly more if special school friend or one of my best friends children.
This is not because i'm stingy but realistic I have four children with some months 2 or 3 parties. Just to increase my stingy rating I stopped doing party bags a few years ago felt spending lots of money on stuff that usually goes in the bin was a bit of waste plus also feel that parties about celebrating a child' birthday and not about which parent's can outdo each other or making some feel guilty if they can't live up to the latest party trend.

sorry rant over
i am quite nice really!!

Birthday presents

Mel x

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