davidoff wrote:
A friend told me she had to basically absorb the entire science gcse syllabus to help her kids get throught it (they got A*s) but I am almost the opposite in terms of assistance and am now wondering if I should be doing more to support. Would just be interested to hear how much or how little other parents do. Many thanks
This is what you call helicopter parenting - it is ridiculous. At what point does your friend think her dc might actually be able to learn something fro themselves? when they are at university? this is not 'help'- it is obsessive interference. It is also arrogant.
Your approach is much better OP; your dd will develop ways of learning independently which suit her. My dds just get on with it - I sometimes help with English IF THEY ASK and ditto maths, but otherwise I am hands off. If they do well , great - if they don't, they learn from their mistakes. Isn't that better than standing over your kids and stifling them?