solimum wrote:
The school should ideally be made aware (via her form tutor/ pastoral lead/ head of year - whichever is appropriate) but will make it clear on any notes they have about your daughter that it's not to be brought up with her unless she initiates it. If things are going well and she is coping that's great, but if there's a crisis or a time when extra sensitivity might be necessary then it helps for a few key people to be aware in case it should become relevant.
Thanks great advice I will write to her KS3 administers. I might use your wording as these precisely summarise what I want them to know.