Sorry to begin with such a dispondant sounding title but I'm confused. DD is a bright well adjusted 9 year old who reads like a demon, plays the guitar well, does judo, is fab swimmer, is social and happy etc etc (has a halo of course) and wants to go to our local comprehensive very much. Her teacher says she's grammar material. Next year is year 5 and possibly the begining coaching her for 11+ (that huge treadmill of prepping and testing, prepping and testing for Tiffin Girls.
OR she could just be at the top of the very good comprehensive school 10 mins walk down the road where she can excel and grow. I doubt she'd be at the top of Tiffin - she may be at the bottom who knows? Will that be good for her? Just wondering if the effort, expense and travel involved in sending her to Tiffin, even if she does get in (and 90% of kids who apply dont get in, or 10% do), is really worth it in the end? Is it better to have her at an excellent school where she may be a tiny fish or send her to comp where she could be a bigger one arguably a happier one?
Will her chances be that much better afterwards in life that's the question?? Those of you who felt this way but then DID choose the 11+ route shed any light on this condundrum please. Thank you very much