What a great OP & one which for the majority I would certainly agree with. I like frustrated though, are very much exception to the rule
I don't mind telling you that I actually came from a very unpriveliged background (most certainly in terms of schooling). I attended a very good C of E primary school who allowed us to work at our own pace & right up to yr6 (which was then class 4
). I worked my socks off & loved school, I worked alongside another boy in my class & we were reguarly in friendly competition with each other, we read the entire schools collection of books & they had to buy a couple of KMP books (at least from what memory serves me, long long time ago
) just for us as we'd worked through every single SMP card. When it came to 11+ time, my class mate told me he was taking it, so I asked my parents if I could take it, the answer was a firm no, reason given was I had a younger sister who they were too busy with????? These were parents who never attended a single parents evening nor took any interest in what I'd achieved at school, ask them today they wouldn't have a clue!! Now my friend passed his 11+ with such good results that the grammar school took him in the May of that year instead of September (sooo not done now
). We were at the exact same level in class & I don't mind saying that we were well above the rest of the class, we were often asked to help our peers. So in terms of ability there's no reason why I feel I wouldn't have passed.
On entering our local Secondary school (which wasn't the worst by any means) I had lost interest, I so badly wanted to be at Grammar. I worked just enough to say I'd completed my work, I wasn't a naughty child but I had decided not to bother as no-one cared anyway & just to have fun. In the 3rd year at Secondary it suddenly emerged from our teachers that those in the top 15 or 20% (again can't remember exactly) in our year could go to Grammar school, something again which my parents failed to inform me, even though they later revealed they knew full well as they'd tried to get my older brother in that way!! So being in only the top 25% of that year I didn't go, I never forget my teachers words, 'you only just didn't get in, if only you worked to your full potential'. Words which make me feel regret to this day. So going on throughout the rest of the school time with little or no interest, not realising at any time how much I'd live to regret it. I came out of school with very disappointing GCSE results (all C's & D's).
When I left school I had no direction, my parents had warned me all my school life 'not to bother thinking about college, they could never afford it'. So this is in my mind was no option. So I took it upon myself to get a job with college training alongside it, I hated every minute of it & was very unhappy for the 2 years of training but I was determined not to give it up as I was learning a trade. Once I qualified I left & got a job in a supermarket until I decided what I wanted to do, within 3 months I was working in their general office on the ordering system then about a year following that in their cash office. Then my own family & I relocated with hubby's job & I had a couple of lovely jobs. We've now moved back home & I've finally decided what I would really love to do is study History. So thats my current goal.
Now I most certainly don't feel sorry for myself but boy do I have a chip on my shoulder about how I was brought up
Although there's one thing to be thankful for, it made me the complete opposite, I get involved with absolutely everything that my 3 DC do & when my DS showed interest in Grammar, I got onto it immediately, I bought some bond books & started his practise, he went on to pass the Bucks, Kent & Medway test, proud? you betcha!! I wholeheartedly agree with frustrated that the one thing we surely all have in common is the desire for the absolute best for our DC's!!!
I do hope I haven't bored anyone to death