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katel
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Just a though for everyone waiting with fingers crossed....

Post by katel »

I posted this last summer - I thought I would post it again because it's still true.

"My dd is now in Year 9. Yesterday she met up with 10 on her friends from Priamry school at the swimming pool ,and I had a chance to chat to many of their parents. We were all reminiscing about their year 6 leavers party, and how hideous and traumatic the whole process had been, and how unhappy and worried many of us had been, and how anxious about the future.

The children all went on to a variety of schools - some "good" some "OK" some "bad". State, and independent, grammar and high. Some that their parents were happy and proud to send them to, some that gave them tears and sleepless nights.

What I want to say is that there were 10 happy, confident young people in that pool. All doing well, heading for the GCSEs of their choice. There had been bumps along the way - one boy is now being home schooled (he was one of the ones who went to a grammar) and one had moved schools in year 8, but now, nearing the end of year 9, they were all a joy and a credit to their parents.All busy and achieving.

So please don't despair. All the parents I spoke to agreed that the secondary allocation process was one of the most traumatic times of their lives, but that if they had known then what they know now, they would have stopped worrying. (Well, worried less, anyway!).

So try not to think of not getting the school you want as the end of the world. Yes, it's easier to do well in some schools than others, but children can achieve and be happy anywhere. And in three years time, you will look back and realize that this is the truth - however much you think I'm talking rubbish now!"
dottie1974
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Re: Just a though for everyone waiting with fingers crossed.

Post by dottie1974 »

What a lovely are reassuring post. Thanks for sharing that :D

I have read several times on here that people that have found this forum are seeking out what we feel is for the best for our children, so because their best interests and education is obviously important to us, our children are likely to thrive wherever they go as they have the support from us.

Yes, waiting for the 11+ results is horrid, and I still feel at times like it is one big rollercoaster ride of emotions, BUT, having viewed schools other than grammar, have realised that it isn't the end of the world if the results are not what we are hoping for.

Dottie
hdq2907
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Re: Just a though for everyone waiting with fingers crossed.

Post by hdq2907 »

I think I'll be coming back to read this post a few times during the next nerve racking two weeks. It's so true that my lovely ds will do well wherever he goes. I've yet to visit any schools so hopefully what you've said dottie will ring true once we have!!
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