I thought it would be helpful to start a thread on Damage Limitation in case of 11 plus failures. I have read various treads on here from people who have taken the 11 plus themselves and blame their life's misfortunes on failing.
Here are some suggestions for people and I would be really grateful of any ideas too as I am preempting any possible result.
1. Introduce DC to someone doing really well at alternative school to Grammar.
2. Ensure that DC understands that the 11 plus is not a pass/fail test just one to see what type of learning style suits them best e.g. Pressured learning or methodical learning.
3. Pick out all the good points of the alternative school. Eg that DC may be in top sets of other school which might be a nice place to be
4. Help DC' to understand that life is full of disappointments for everyone and the people who do well are not those who always succeed but those who pick themselves up, brush themselves off and get on with achieving their ultimate goal.
5. Reward for hard work and not results. DD asked for a mobile phone as a reward for passing her 11 plus ( which I wasn't going to get her until secondary school. So I bought her one last week with a card saying it was a reward for all her hard work. I will take her out for lunch after the exam, but will give no reward for passing or failing the test.
6. Make sure that DC knows that you are proud of them whatever and that you don' think either school is the better or worse option.
7. Help DC to understand that academic achievement is not the B all and end all even though it may seem like it at this very moment in time. Life is about being happy and having fun.
8. Let DC know that no test is perfect and your result only shows how you did in that test in that day, nothing more.
9. Explain to DC that 11 plus is not an exam that looks at all round ability but just speed.
10. Before your DC takes the exam, tell them about all the fantastically successful people who have historically failed the 11 plus. Here is a link with a list http://www.friendsreunited.co.uk/celebr ... 0a01316556
Any other suggestions would be very welcome indeed.