Essex Girl wrote:
Yes, I did start to look at the grammar school system in a different way, when our last child did not get a place. I think you are right. If they had got the place then I may well have been all for them but I have now seen it from both sides and, having had the experience I have had with the system and appeals, etc, etc (doubtless you have seen my postings about this elsewhere in the forum) I feel that I am better informed about the pluses and minuses of the system.
Sorry if I offended you or anyone else by suggesting that Southend is the only school in Essex worth applying to. It is simply that I have experience of it and have friends with experience of other schools. It would be wrong of me to suggest that any other schools, grammar or otherwise, were not worth applying to. Of course they are. It is all about what experience each individual pupil has at each school. Doubtless there are those who love Chelmsford, for example, equally there are those that have hated it and I have no doubt that this is the case with all schools, including Southend.
Sometimes I am a little outspoken and, again, apologies if I offend anyone.
As far as our last child was concerned, I have no problem with the fact that they did not get a grammar school place (if you have the points you get in, if not, you don't, that's fair!). I also have no problem with the fact that our child was turned down on appeal. What I take issue with is the number of appeals that I know succeeded in previous years, for no good reason (not just be summising, I know the facts from the parents mouths).
Good luck to your child, Guest. I am sure they will be happy at their new school. Feel proud and know that you are doing the best for your chiild.
Thanks for your kind words - sorry if I sounded a bit "off". I have been through the 11+ twice now and am so glad that I won't have to do it again. I still actually think that the system is cruel - no matter how bright your child is they can have a bad day e.g. nerves, and not get in and I am certain there are many children who fall into this category. Then again, I suppose it is a selection process and that process is that one day and we have a choice whether to put our child through it or not. In my daughters case, she and her cousin were the only 2 girls to get into grammars (different ones though) but I know there are other girls who sat it who are just as bright but didn't perform on the day. Anyway....I will stop my ranting now!!