Private tuition. When do you stop?

[southbucks3]

Nope...my Oxbridge graduate 45 year old friend has had his house completely refurbished by his retired dad! They are all happy, so why not. My best friend works full time only because her mum provides full time child care. It never ends, if you as a family don't want it to it is a family decision.

Personally I had no help or support at all, it really did not make me a better person. I intend to prop mine up whenever they need it, and we can afford it, or do it ourselves, particularly in finding their first home...out of mine! They can mow their own lawns though, they have enough practice here.

Now...anyone know any brilliant French tutors in bucks that work for free.

I categorically will not pay for them to do world challenge though...even in the guise of sponsorship.

[new2me]

I don't think I would ever stop supporting my children's goals, provided they are realistic, achievable and the child is willingly working towards them too.

If my DSs needed intensive tutoring across the board to achieve their goals, I'd suggest that they may not be realistic. I'd happily provide a tutor to boost a grade where necessary, for example to ensure my MFL hating child gets a good grade in his GCSE, or to help turn an A into an A* at A' level if a university place depended on it. My DSs are likely to refuse all offers of help, though.

Learning is a life long journey and tutors can help with the trip.

[JSN]

I'd happily provide a tutor to boost a grade where necessary, for example to ensure my MFL hating child gets a good grade in his GCSE,

I did exactly that with my son and his Spanish, 4 sharp wks 1 hr a day with a specialist Spanish tutor ( at £50 per hour )put him back on track for A/A* , he just could not keep up with the maniac pace of top set Spanish class at a top tier Indie, now he can hold his head above water (just)?

[Guest55]

Why did you have to pay for extra help? Any decent school should support students without parents needing to pay and I find it shocking that a Private school would not do this!

[southbucks3]

I'd happily provide a tutor to boost a grade where necessary, for example to ensure my MFL hating child gets a good grade in his GCSE,

I did exactly that with my son and his Spanish, 4 sharp wks 1 hr a day with a specialist Spanish tutor ( at £50 per hour )put him back on track for A/A* , he just could not keep up with the maniac pace of top set Spanish class at a top tier Indie, now he can hold his head above water (just)?

How much I hope she/he threw in a few salsa lessons...that's a grand...assuming they did not work weekends?

[JSN]

I think I have explained this before.
He should never of been in top set !!
I begged and begged for him to be moved into a lower / slower set
"just because you have been to school does not make you an expert in education"
remember?
I think Amber had a brilliant rebuttal which I have forgotten something bout Mr Grove
that's why I believe in selection not everyone can move at the same pace!

[sbarnes]

I disagree with you G55, it is my job to help my child as and when I think it warrants regardless of what happens at school.

[SleepyHead]

I agree with supporting DC where necessary but do worry about the fine line between providing support (as a temporary measure to get DC back on track) or spoon feeding and creating an environment of dependent learning.

It is a very fine line - and one that DH and I discuss from time to time. I intend to support DD for the 11+ process but hope ( ) that by the time she's doing her GCSEs that she would have adopted our own work ethic and be able to plan and revise independently. Is that wishful thinking?

Sleepyhead

[eleven]

Thanks for all your contributions. Seems this goes on and on i.e. cradle to grave.

Tutor them to get through to a good gs or Indy, continue while they are in good schools to get all the A+ possible to get to Oxbridge or Ivy League.

Why stop there, a first class degree is definitely better than a second and I will provide private tuition to achieve that if necessary.

Hmmm, I will help with the job interview, ooh the 20% deposit for your first flat, don't forget the arrange marriage and hurry up I have plans for my grand kids.

Welcome to parenting.

[Guest55]

JSN you still haven't explained why the school didn't offer support.

sbarnes - parents would be aware of additional support and, indeed, they may even request it. What I was saying is that extra support should be free in a good school.