Is it normal to have a perfectly behaved child at school

T.i.p.s.y · Post by **T.i.p.s.y** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 3:52 pm

Was just wondering if DS is normal!

He has never been in trouble at school - ever. Always complient, polite, doesn't chat during the lesson apart from answering the teacher and never been involved in a physical or verbal argument. Is this normal? He is 11 now and I am wondering if I am in for a big shock at 14 or if he will always be this way.

Don't get me started on the other one which requires a new thread along the lines of, "Is it normal to have a badly bhaved child...."

Looking for help · Post by **Looking for help** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 3:57 pm

At primary school mine were all like that, we never had any trouble with them at all....I used to always wonder how they could be so naughty at home,and yet perfectly behaved for their teachers at school.

He may become more assertive as he gets older, and might therefore get in a little trouble now and then, but maybe not. You've done a good job on him

Chelmsford mum · Post by **Chelmsford mum** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 3:59 pm

Yes it's normal.Some Children just hate the thought of being in trouble.Mine are all like that......in school.
My little DD's T.A said recently that it was "a relief to have to tell little CM to be quiet today"

Obviously her name is not little CM

sherry_d · Post by **sherry_d** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 4:05 pm

Looking for help wrote:I used to always wonder how they could be so naughty at home,and yet perfectly behaved for their teachers at school.

Same here, just dont know how her behaviour switches like that. I seem to be the one she will most unlikely listen to

She is a little chatterbox though and thats what she occassionally gets in trouble for

KB · Post by KB » Fri Mar 12, 2010 4:05 pm

Just make the most of it !
Only advice I would offer is no to over-react if he does get told off/ into a bit of trouble.
I have found that when you are used to them being so good there is danger that something minor, that would be overlooked with an 'average' child can be seen by staff as much as parents, as a big deal because it is out of character.

sherry_d · Post by **sherry_d** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 4:11 pm

Sorry to hijack your post a bit Tipsy but talking of kids is there something you dread them doing. For me its discovering boys, oh my world that fills me with horror

Milla · Post by **Milla** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 4:20 pm

(for me it's discovering girls, sherry! which is why I'm DELIGHTED DS1 is at an all boys' GS!!)

T.i.p.s.y · Post by **T.i.p.s.y** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 4:28 pm

So that's normal even if he may not be!

LFH,

If I take credit for him being lovely then I have to assume I must have abused DS2 in some way!

KB,

I know what you mean about being harsh if they do something wrong. The first time I got in trouble for speaking in class (Year 5) I was summoned in front of the Head in assembly and embarrassed. No other children had ever had that happen. From then on I was a nightmare as I felt a great sense of injustice. Still trying to outgrow that incident!

CM,

Not known as Little CM but Little One (bless)!

yoyo123 · Post by **yoyo123** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 4:45 pm

Miss yoyo was always good at school, saved her evil side for her little brother

Snowdrops · Post by **Snowdrops** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 4:47 pm

Dammit, and I thought I'd turned into the perfect parent!!

1st child you're learning

2nd child you're getting better

3rd time you get perfection

If you got perfection the first time it makes me even worse than I thought I was for all those years

My dd has been a perfect angel throughout school, indeed it's one of the things people most comment on (along with her happy smiley face

).

It's very true what KB said, after so much perfect behaviour, just lately as she's coming into adulthood and all that brings

any sort of 'normal' behaviour is magnified

We have to be very careful not to over-react now

Enjoy it whilst it lasts Tips - they grow up all toooooooooooooooooo soooooooooooooooon