child bereavement counsellors

[U400JB9]

Thankyou everyone.
Been to see the GP this evening who is reluctant to refer her to what is the mental health team. I'm going to go back to school and follow up the leads you've given me.
I don't think I'm being as much help as they need at the moment

I'll keep you posted, and thankyou all again

[fatbananas]

I don't think I'm being as much help as they need at the moment

It sounds like you've been through a lot yourself recently, and it must be hard to deal with your feelings, let alone your DCs. You are clearly a loving and supportive parent and I hope you get some help from school. If not, come back here to share and perhaps people will have other ideas to help you help your DD.

[neveragain*]

Thankyou everyone.
Been to see the GP this evening who is reluctant to refer her to what is the mental health team. I'm going to go back to school and follow up the leads you've given me.
I don't think I'm being as much help as they need at the moment

I'll keep you posted, and thankyou all again

Hi,

The reasons your GP won't want to refer will be myriad but the children won't really meet criteria for specialist services at this point. You are doing everything you can to support the children I am sure, but do call Winstons Wish for help and advice. They will talk to you about how you can best support the children and are really supportive.

There are a huge number of helpful books too that you will see on the Winstons Wish website - age appropriate ways of talking about grief and loss.

Good luck. Take care of you too x

[U400JB9]

Thankyou.
I am a nurse, and I've worked alongside the mental health team, and, TBH, it's not what I want for her.
She doesn't want it either, which I guess is the most important thing.
I will certainly follow up Winston Wish.

[zeinab]

Awww, thinking f you all. Your DD Will pull through this with the help of her darling Mum. It will take it's course. She as well as you need time to heal.
My advice would be just be supportive with lots of praise, hugs and always look at those who are much, much worse off.

Best wishes and keep us updated.

[U400JB9]

Thank you

We`ve had lots of lovely news recently( multitude of new cousins on the way and family weddings ) and DD2 seems to be much happier and settled in herself.

School have a counsellor coming to `assess` her needs next week, and, being a church school, we have a get together with the local vicar next week too. ( she called saying school wondered if she could be any help ) I think she`s coming to see how I`m doing to

Hopefully we are through the worst now, but thank you everyone x

[Reading Mum]

Good to hear ***

[Pumpkin Pie]

Dear All, hope you don't mind me posting on this thread but I'm looking for some advice with respect to patients with dimentia. Should they be at the funeral of their deceased spouse or would it be all too much for them?

Many thanks. X

[Reading Mum]

A difficult one. We took my great Aunt to her husband's funeral and she was very upset and stressed by the whole thing. 2 days later she had no recollection of the event which made us wonder whether we had put her through it all for nothing. On the other hand, how could we not take her - they had no children so they really only had each other.

[fatbananas]

We had the opposite experience. My grandfather wasn't really aware whose funeral he was at (he'd been married for 62 years) but a couple of weeks' later he said 'she's gone, hasn't she' and was incredibly sad for a couple of days.